Many people look good on the outside but are broken on the inside. Most attacks we experience come from the root, and it manifests in the evident fruit. As believers, are we experiencing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) in our lives? The enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy in our minds and emotions to put us in bondage. The root of rejection started from the fall of Satan from heaven and he sows that seed in the hearts of God’s children. Causes of Rejection:
Hurtful words, actions and neglect. When such words are spoken, they become the meditation of our thoughts and affect our emotions.
Also through divorce, embarrassment, death of a loved one, discrimination, infidelity, abuse, chronic lack of equal opportunities, etc. Our response to rejection makes the difference on how it affects you. If we don’t deal with rejection at the early stages it can become deeply rooted. To cope with the feeling of being rejected, sadly many turn to pornography, addiction and the like. The only way to deal with rejection is to uproot it for removing the fruit alone is not enough. The spirit of rejection manifests through perfectionism, fear, withdrawing from relationships, people-pleasing, overly sensitive and inferiority complex. As believers, we must be careful that we don’t contribute to the rejection that people may be experiencing, but instead show them love. Fruits of Rejection:
Anxiety/state of worry – Feeling that time is running out. But God has promised to take care of all our needs (Matthew 6:30).
Self pity & hopelessness which is due comparing oneself to others. God has made you fearfully and wonderfully (Psalm 139).
Denial – Feeling that anyone who does better and achieves much has been dishonest to gain such heights.
Anger and lack of self-control – Short tempered and touchy.
Playing safe – Not wanting to take risks so as to avoid failure and the feeling of being rejected. How to deal with rejection:
Know that God loves you – meditate on how God loves each of His children wholly (Ephesians 1:4); His goodness over your life. God has promised never to leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5-6).
Chose between love and rejection – Become deeply rooted in the only love that makes us unshakeable (Ephesians 3:17).
Expect rejection but don’t harbour it – Rejection has nothing to do with us but with other people’s hurts & experiences. Hurting people hurt people and we can’t allow rejection to remain in our hearts. By the help of the Holy Spirit, let us nip rejection at the root and so that we can live in freedom.